I was perusing the news online – gathering my usual political research for the day when I saw a headline in the Entertainment section that read:
Why you should keep your affair to yourself.
Now besides reading online all the time, I read a lot of girly magazines and such too. I have to say that never, ever have I seen a magazine, writer or blogger – woman or man – tell people that have had an affair – to keep it a secret.
Kudos to the author of this article on finding a title that sucked me in. I clicked on it.
Here it is if you want to do the same:
And then – she got me again. With this article titled:
How an affair saved my marriage.
I mean really….that’s not a title I’ve often seen. It’s usually in big, black, ugly lettering saying the opposite…as in “how an affair ruined my marriage.”
I see THAT article all the time. So again – the rarity of this title sucked me in and I clicked on this one too.
And then because I was procrastinating at work even more – I got caught up in the comments to the author regarding this article.
Holy shit….people have got some opinions on this and might I say that most are not good. In fact, of the ones I’ve read it doesn’t seem that ANYONE agrees with the author.
They kind of think she’s scum.
Without even knowing her. Seeing her face. Living her life. Feeling her joy or her pain.
Just based on her words and opinions and actions with two men the readers also do not know and never will.
Judgement sure does run amuck in our society, doesn’t it? I mean – I’m not saying I think she’s right or wrong….I’m just saying who the hell am I to make that call?
Who says what is right or wrong? Your God, your bible or my rules and my ancestors? Are your morals automatically mine? Your opinions the only truth? Your sins the only forgivable ones? And who gets to say you’re forgiven? Who gets to cleanse you?
I don’t know.
This is a touchy subject. It’s about love and hearts and marriages but I’m working on my own one-sided viewpoints about all those things. Love and marriage does NOT mean the same thing to everyone. It doesn’t have to. And that doesn’t make anyone better than or less than me as a person.
It just makes them different.
I could be wrong. They could be right. But I’ll never know if I don’t drop my need to judge instantly based on very few facts.
Her marriage isn’t mine. If she believes her marriage is better now – woohoo – good luck honey. If she believes affairs should be kept secret….have at it.
Don’t tell me what to do in my marriage and I won’t judge you for what you do in yours.
It sure is fun to talk about though. I mean it’s a pretty taboo subject that isn’t talked about openly much. My girlfriends and I don’t sit around and talk about the affairs they may or may not have had. It’s more of a private talk you have with one person you really trust.
I’ve been close to a few people who have had affairs and open relationships. I’ve never known a woman who has had an affair and kept it from their husband. I wonder if that’s possible. Wouldn’t it eat a person alive as they went on in time? I think if it was a one night thing with no details like names and such – then maybe. But an actual affair with emotions and details – even if it’s over – would be sooo hard to live with forever.
What do you think? Should affairs be kept a secret? Can an affair be good for a marriage? Why? Do you base your opinions on your religion and morals or just on how you feel about love and life?
You gotta admit this author definitely put a new spin on this subject, right?
Now, let’s discuss! I love a good debate and I’m SICK of politics right now!